Cosmopolitan: A lot of people think of stress as a marker of success — it means you're busy and important. But you don't think that way. Why is that?
Gabrielle Bernstein: Stress is actually the number one thing that blocks people from their happiness and well-being and from getting what they want. I think stress is an addiction. It can be tied to work addiction or busyness addiction or success addiction.
Cosmo: It seems people become stressed because they're trying to control everything: their job, their relationships...
GB: They're trying to outrun fear. If you can stay in control of that deadline, then you don't have to be afraid of your boss. If you can stay in control of that relationship, then you don't have to be afraid of being alone. Fear and stress — one creates the other. It's like we're running from lions all day. Letting go of control, that's actually when you're safe. Letting go of stress means that you can enjoy your life. Your skin will get better, you're going to be more attractive, you're more likely to get a job — all the things you want, you will get as a result of being in a more calm place.